Following a bitter divorce you can make some serious errors in how you speak to your children and how you handle challenging situations that are sure to arise involving parenting. Here are some of the most common errors many a Family Law Lawyer Pottstown PA see and how to avoid them.
Emotional Strain
Your children will be under terrible emotional strain and making it as easy for them as possible must always be your goal. A common mistake is speaking ill of your ex to your children. It can be very difficult to avoid the temptation especially in situations where you feel something your spouse did has ruined the life you and your children once enjoyed. Avoid making comments or snide remarks about your ex and never try to get information from your kids about your spouse. Do not use your child as a go between or make subtle remarks about the situation in the hopes it will get back to your ex. Divorce can be lonely and another dangerous mistake many parents make is to start speaking to their child and confiding in them about feelings and emotions regarding the divorce like your child is an adult friend. It is important to remain the pillar for your child and save your child from having to support you emotionally.
Happy Front
There will be many occasions when both you and your ex will have to be together for the sake of your children. During birthdays, school events, sports and other extra curricular activities it is best to smile and be cordial and if you can’t, remove yourself momentarily so you do not make a scene that will stay with your child for a long time. It can also embarrass them in front of friends, teachers and coaches, especially their friends who will not understand what is happening.
Spoiling
It is very easy to be tempted to spoil a child involved in a divorce out of guilt. It is also often a tactic used by one of the parents to get leverage with a child in order to make them selves appear to be the hero while the other parent is left to be the bad guy. This will only be harmful in the end so always take the high road.
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